Strange enough blog title for today don’t you think? It has become quite the joke in my household, almost as great as the joke about the non-existent maid that I employ and fire on a regular basis. The truth is? I don’t think I have ever eaten an actual “bon-bon” but this year may be one of those firsts.
I have learned through my 46 years that assuming what you know about others is not only unfair, it is the worst form of judgement we can impose on one another. This has always been a major pet peeve in my corner of the world and has NEVER been a job that has been divinely appointed by others. I have come to know that it is a learned behavior, not an employable position, only God himself holds this title. (okay, got the soapbox out-of-the-way)
I had been gainfully employed from the age of 16 until the age of 33..so, yes, I know what it is like to hold down a job, run a household and toggle everything around a working schedule. It is tough with and without children. Life is busier than we want it to be at times and most of my friends continue to juggle this quite competently. I have complete admiration for those that do it so well.
I never ask my friends “What did you do all day?” or even assume that because they have a paying job, their checkbooks always balance. I also do not assume that my retired friends have “arrived.” My point is this – words can be used for 2 things when you assume.
1. To build up
2. To tear down
There are no gray areas here. Use your words wisely. If you don’t agree with others choices? I promise you IT IS OKAY… we were not fashioned to be clones, but individuals. What works for you, may not work for someone else.
If I DO decide to stay at home for the purpose of eating Bon Bons, or actually hire a maid so I can watch soap operas all day long?… I promise I will immediately post it on my social network to make sure you get the heads up!
As a stay at home mom who homeschools 180 actual days out of the year….be prepared for the “eye roll” the next time you make one of these statements:
1. What do you do all day? 2. Oh, so you don’t actually work? 3. You must have a lot of free time? 4. Some of us have to work for a living. 5. (my utmost favorite: “It must be nice” (derogatory)
For the record, I am busy.. every day. I do have advantages in staying home, but so do you from working. I do not begrudge your new automobile, your larger home that you work hard to pay for, or your totally new fall wardrobe. I will, honestly, rejoice with you in your blessings.
If you work? Be the best employee you can ultimately be! If you stay at home? Be the best homemaker you can ultimately be!
If you want to voluntarily have a Bon- Bon party? I’ll even put a temporary address label on my mailbox (Rodeo Drive) I’m all in! We should be an encourager for one another.. share one anothers burdens.. regardless what season or job in life we find ourselves in. And please, don’t let me remind you what the word “assume” really stands for. It would not be appropriate for my blog.